Some people find it awkward and uncomfortable, while others see it as a great way to reach climax together. When it comes to sex positions, 69 tends to divide opinions. But whether you love it or not, this position is far from a passing trend. It has existed for thousands of years—it's even mentioned in the ancient Kama Sutra as the "Congress of a Crow." As long as people are getting together, they'll likely keep trying this challenging but satisfying position.
In case you need a reminder, 69 is when two people give and receive oral sex at the same time. It comes with plenty of benefits. Psychotherapist and certified sex therapist Dr. Lee Phillips explains that it works well as foreplay. “Trying this position with a partner can be a great way to build arousal before intercourse,” he says. “Many people find it highly intimate because of how physically close they are.” And really, what could be more intimate than being face-to-face with each other's most private areas?
"Another benefit is that both partners feel pleasure at the same time, which makes it very exciting," Phillips adds.
That doesn’t mean 69 is without its challenges. A big height difference between partners can make things tricky. It might involve a lot of neck stretching, and if you're the one on top, it can be quite the shoulder workout (but hey, at least it’s a fun way to strengthen those muscles!). Plus, some people may struggle to focus on both giving and receiving pleasure at the same time.
But here’s something to remember: It’s totally fine to take a break and enjoy how good your partner’s touch feels before continuing, says Venus Cuffs, a nightlife entrepreneur and former pro-dominatrix.
Despite these challenges, fans of 69 insist that giving and receiving pleasure at the same time is incredibly exciting—and we couldn’t agree more. In fact, there’s more than one way to try this position, and finding what works best is just a matter of experimenting.
So, grab some lube just in case, use a pillow for support, keep an open mind, and try out these fun variations of 69!
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- G➺ The Standing 69 (aka Upright 69)
A➺ Classic 69
How it works:
Two people position themselves so that each person's mouth is near the other's genitals. One person lies on their back, while the other lies on top with their knees by their partner's head. Then, both people can give each other oral sex. In heterosexual couples, the woman is usually on top, with the man lying on his back.
Pro tip:
"Sometimes, there can be discomfort around the knees and head," says Cuffs. "For people with larger or curvier bodies, depending on whether they are on top or bottom, it can also be uncomfortable, especially if it's for a long time." That’s why Cuffs suggests using a pillow under the head, knees, or even the hips. "Dame makes a sex pillow called Pillo, which helps support the body during pleasure and is one of the more affordable options available," Cuffs adds.
B➺ Inverted 69
How it works:
This position is similar to the classic 69, but instead of the woman being on top, the man is.
Perks of this variation:
Although not a feature of the position itself, the inverted 69 tends to be a more intense experience. "It’s great if you want to try deepthroating," says Phillips. With the man on top, he has more control over his thrusting and can go harder and deeper. "And if you or your partner enjoy having testicles near your face, this can be a big turn-on," he adds.
C➺ Swinging 69
How it works:
If you have a sex swing, you should definitely try 69 with it. One partner lies back in the swing with the straps around their back, lower butt, and heels. The other partner, with their feet on the floor, bends over. From this position, your genitals are near each other’s face, and you can begin performing oral sex.
Perks of this variation:
Sex swing positions are usually more focused on vaginal and anal penetration, so this is a fun way to add oral sex into the mix while using the swing.
D➺ Sideways 69
How it works:
Instead of one person being on top, both partners lie on their sides.
Perks of this variation:
If the classic 69 position makes it hard to reach each other's genitals, the sideways 69 might work better for you. In my experience, it’s easier to reach everything. It also takes less effort for the person who would usually be on top. When on top in the classic 69, you’re often on your knees and at least one elbow, which can get tiring after a while.
E➺ Sex Toy 69
How it works:
Get into the classic or sideways 69 position (or any variation that works for you). Use your partner’s favorite sex toy on them, while they use their favorite toy on you. Clit vibrators and penis strokers work well in this position. Then, enjoy the experience! Don’t forget the lube!
Perks of this variation:
Not all 69-ing needs to involve oral. Sometimes, using toys while in the same “fun” position can be just as exciting. Using toys requires less physical effort, allowing you to focus more on your own pleasure. Giving and receiving oral can sometimes make it harder to reach climax, so using toys can make things simpler and more enjoyable.
F➺ Squatting 69
How it works:
Instead of having your partner lie on top of you, have them squat over you.
Perks of this variation:
This position requires strength and flexibility in the lower back, glutes, and quads. If your partner has it, this is a fun twist on the classic. The squat position also makes it easier to slap the butt.
G➺ The Standing 69 (aka Upright 69)
How it works:
Instead of lying down, you hold your partner upside-down while standing.
Perks of this variation:
If you can do this, you'll feel really powerful.
Cons of this variation:
Unless you're very strong, it may be hard to lift your partner safely. This position works best if your partner is smaller in size.
H➺ Penetrative 69
How it works:
In addition to orally stimulating your partner, use either your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate them. If your partner has a vagina, you can lick/suck their clitoris while digitally penetrating her vagina. Or, if your partner is into it, you can eat their vagina while you finger their anus (or vice-a-versa). You can do this with men, too. While being blown, have your partner massage your prostate for more intense pleasure.
Perks of variation:
With internal stimulation, pleasure rises exponentially for both parties involved.
I➺ Analingus 69
How it works:
Since we're talking about variations of the 69 position that include anal sex, one option is to focus entirely on oral sex on your partner's anus. Another common variation, especially between two men, involves the person receiving anal sex performing oral sex on their partner. Meanwhile, the partner who will be penetrating anally performs oral sex on the other's anus. This is often used as a type of foreplay to prepare the receiving partner for anal penetration.
Benefits of this variation:
If you enjoy anal sex and/or prostate stimulation, this variation might be something you'd like.
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